Being liked by others, especially in my personal life, came at the expense of voicing my true feelings and needs. It was more important to be liked than it was to have relationships that felt honest and nourishing. Unsurprisingly, this can lead to a hell of a lot of resentment. The flipside of this, of course, is that I was quick to avoid people who immediately cared for me, and who offered their love freely and readily. I was more likely to run from someone genuinely caring than I was from someone who treated me poorly. I avoided the people who gave me the kind of love I wanted, because it scared me, and I was sure that I would disappoint them with time.
Pleaser Women Always Lose Out – The Difference Between Pleasing and Giving
Pleaser Women Always Lose Out: The Difference Between Pleasing & Giving
You feel the pressure throb in your veins. A lump rises in your throat as your colleagues watch you closely. They are expecting an answer. They are expecting you to comply. It has crushed your spirit repeatedly.
People-Pleasing: The Hidden Dangers of Always Being “Too Nice”
People-pleasing is a strong trait of the youth. But how far would you go to please someone else? And what would you be willing to give up just to make others happy?
She was right, too. For my mom, the thing she loves most about my dad is his big heart. If anyone has a problem or needs something, my dad stops and helps out.